My kids have been military kids since the day they have been born. I have always loved it and got excited to move. I thought they felt the same way. A new place, a new city, getting to explore what we will like or dislike. Well for the first time, my oldest has not enjoyed it. It took me awhile to figure it out. We have only been to our new place since June 9th so not that long. Her attitude has been out of control and just snotty. Some would argue that is what "teenagers" are going to do. Not my teenager - We will call her Bubba - She is fun, loving and a really good girl. She has her moments of snotty but not what everyone kept telling me it was going to be like. Enough of that one because we could go on and on.
It just seemed liked Bubba was starting fights with everyone - It didn't matter what we did, especially with her dad and I. We were yelling at her more often and telling her she needed adjust this attitude of hers. We had gone out the night before and she wanted to stay home. This just didn't seem natural for Bubba to want to do that. She even said, she wanted to watch her younger brother. What??? Then the very next day we were on the mission to try to find some new furniture for the house. This is when it finally hit me.
We go to the first store - everything is fine. Bubba is a little short and getting a little snotty. It's not even 10 AM, I was thinking in my head "Wow, this is going to be a very long long day". We were in there for a couple of hours. We go to the next store - she kindly takes the young one to the car. The third store she just sits in the truck. I finally asked "What is going on?" What am I going to do if I can't figure what is wrong. There is something your not telling me. Are you mad at us? What is wrong? Her tears just started flowing. I didn't want to move. I don't have any friends here. I don't like it here. I had to step back because she had been so excited to move. It was California. She had been talking about it for so long. I had to really think where it went from being excited to darn right miserable for her.
In Yuma, she had her friends, one that she had gone to mall and movies with, getting her own independence. Now we were moving again to having nothing. Talk about feeling guilty. I started to think if this is truly the right choice for our family. She is starting high school, and I am not sure how I would feel about moving every couple of years to start fresh again and again. Especially if I was getting older. High school is hard enough but to move without really knowing anyone, I can't imagine what it would be like. Then I had to start thinking about what can I do for her? To make this easier for her. I have three other kids to worry about but she kind of seems like the odd man out because she is so much older then the other three. They play together and have their regular sibling fights but that's it. Everything is so expensive and trying to figure out what I need to do so she has someone to talk to or do things with.
We were looking at things to do. I told her to "like" her High School on facebook. Then we were reading that the library does "teen" things on Saturday. It seems perfect and hopefully this Saturday, we can drop her off and Bubba might make some new friends. It seems to be one step in the right direction. Only time will tell. I wonder how many other moms go through the same thing and what they do to fix it.
I hope Saturday is a great success and she finds some friends. Only time will tell.
It just seemed liked Bubba was starting fights with everyone - It didn't matter what we did, especially with her dad and I. We were yelling at her more often and telling her she needed adjust this attitude of hers. We had gone out the night before and she wanted to stay home. This just didn't seem natural for Bubba to want to do that. She even said, she wanted to watch her younger brother. What??? Then the very next day we were on the mission to try to find some new furniture for the house. This is when it finally hit me.
We go to the first store - everything is fine. Bubba is a little short and getting a little snotty. It's not even 10 AM, I was thinking in my head "Wow, this is going to be a very long long day". We were in there for a couple of hours. We go to the next store - she kindly takes the young one to the car. The third store she just sits in the truck. I finally asked "What is going on?" What am I going to do if I can't figure what is wrong. There is something your not telling me. Are you mad at us? What is wrong? Her tears just started flowing. I didn't want to move. I don't have any friends here. I don't like it here. I had to step back because she had been so excited to move. It was California. She had been talking about it for so long. I had to really think where it went from being excited to darn right miserable for her.
In Yuma, she had her friends, one that she had gone to mall and movies with, getting her own independence. Now we were moving again to having nothing. Talk about feeling guilty. I started to think if this is truly the right choice for our family. She is starting high school, and I am not sure how I would feel about moving every couple of years to start fresh again and again. Especially if I was getting older. High school is hard enough but to move without really knowing anyone, I can't imagine what it would be like. Then I had to start thinking about what can I do for her? To make this easier for her. I have three other kids to worry about but she kind of seems like the odd man out because she is so much older then the other three. They play together and have their regular sibling fights but that's it. Everything is so expensive and trying to figure out what I need to do so she has someone to talk to or do things with.
We were looking at things to do. I told her to "like" her High School on facebook. Then we were reading that the library does "teen" things on Saturday. It seems perfect and hopefully this Saturday, we can drop her off and Bubba might make some new friends. It seems to be one step in the right direction. Only time will tell. I wonder how many other moms go through the same thing and what they do to fix it.
I hope Saturday is a great success and she finds some friends. Only time will tell.
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