So the follow up from this last Saturday. It had it's good and definitely had it bumps. I will go over the little bumps on why I choose to do what I did.
Saturday morning comes - Andy doesn't have work after 14+ days since Monday. Yeah - we finally got our DLA and went to get some food for the house. Always need that - :) Bubba said she would stay home with Little Bit so we wouldn't need the truck plus both of them love watching Heartland. Favorite TV show for the moment. Plus I think sisterly bonding is important and doesn't not happen right at the moment because Bubba is 14 and Little Bit is only 6. I can't force the issue, right? We get done with shopping and bought Bubba her shirt.
That afternoon it's about 1:30 and we are eating lunch with the boys and dad. I do not eat because I am really sick and not feeling good. Here comes the bad spot. I am putting grocery away as Bubba is getting ready to go. We don't have a huge amount. Next I hear Bubba throwing a huge fit because she can't find her green converse. I guess in her 14 year old mind it made sense to throw a huge temper tantrum (Yes even 14 year old tend to have them). She is screaming, crying, and multiple other things that are not worth mentioning. Her dad is really angry with her and to say the least these two seem to butt head more often then I like to admit. So 1:30 turns to 1:50 and if we don't leave soon then we will be late. Dad comes out to me to ask with Bubba if she deserve to go. My first response would be "No". We don't allow any of children to act out like that and get what they want. But I knew this was different and I was not going to let this little hiccup affect what I was trying to do. I had to get a little mean with her (another thing that breaks my heart) and tell her that I don't like her attitude but I feel she needs this.
We are going to be late (Story of my life) and she is still pretty upset but understands that shoes are not that important. Her dad cleans a pair of flats for her and her thank you to him was "Thanks Dad, these shoes are stupid and don't match my outfit, now I am going to look even more stupid!" Have to love 14 year old logic. She grabs her shirt and we hit the road. We are about 15 minutes late but we are finally there. She wants me to go in with her, so I walk her to the room where the meeting is. She want me to walk her in the room, but I told her no. I told Bubba she was a big and she could do this. She did. She text us while she was in. Asked us what she could print and what was okay. She sent a picture of what she would like to put on her shirt.
She text us to come and pick her up. You could tell she was happy (the happy that I miss seeing on her face). She was giddy, told us what they did. She wanted to make sure we thought her shirt was okay. Bubba explained to all of us why she used black ink vs. a different color ink. We were full of questions and she answered them the best she could. It was cool to see expression. She didn't meet a ton of people, it seemed a lot of them were younger. She did meet one boy that will be going to here H.S. this fall and is her age. He even told her that he thought she was cute. (I should be mad that he said that after the first time, but I couldn't agree more), I think it made her day. We asked if she want to go next week. She somewhat hesitated but I think we are going to encourage her to go again. She just doesn't like the "topic" It's about Joan of Arc. We told her she should go because she was an important women in history. We shall see. :)
So yes, the temper tantrum should not have allowed her to go, but sometimes as a parent you have to overlook the little thing when you know it will benefit your child in the end. I am glad that she had fun and hoping that she will continue want to go. Maybe if she keeps going, they will she that she is a regular and friendships will develop. I know once schools starts, she will be fine but that's not until the end of August.
Here is to her story continuing on her journey.......
Saturday morning comes - Andy doesn't have work after 14+ days since Monday. Yeah - we finally got our DLA and went to get some food for the house. Always need that - :) Bubba said she would stay home with Little Bit so we wouldn't need the truck plus both of them love watching Heartland. Favorite TV show for the moment. Plus I think sisterly bonding is important and doesn't not happen right at the moment because Bubba is 14 and Little Bit is only 6. I can't force the issue, right? We get done with shopping and bought Bubba her shirt.
That afternoon it's about 1:30 and we are eating lunch with the boys and dad. I do not eat because I am really sick and not feeling good. Here comes the bad spot. I am putting grocery away as Bubba is getting ready to go. We don't have a huge amount. Next I hear Bubba throwing a huge fit because she can't find her green converse. I guess in her 14 year old mind it made sense to throw a huge temper tantrum (Yes even 14 year old tend to have them). She is screaming, crying, and multiple other things that are not worth mentioning. Her dad is really angry with her and to say the least these two seem to butt head more often then I like to admit. So 1:30 turns to 1:50 and if we don't leave soon then we will be late. Dad comes out to me to ask with Bubba if she deserve to go. My first response would be "No". We don't allow any of children to act out like that and get what they want. But I knew this was different and I was not going to let this little hiccup affect what I was trying to do. I had to get a little mean with her (another thing that breaks my heart) and tell her that I don't like her attitude but I feel she needs this.
We are going to be late (Story of my life) and she is still pretty upset but understands that shoes are not that important. Her dad cleans a pair of flats for her and her thank you to him was "Thanks Dad, these shoes are stupid and don't match my outfit, now I am going to look even more stupid!" Have to love 14 year old logic. She grabs her shirt and we hit the road. We are about 15 minutes late but we are finally there. She wants me to go in with her, so I walk her to the room where the meeting is. She want me to walk her in the room, but I told her no. I told Bubba she was a big and she could do this. She did. She text us while she was in. Asked us what she could print and what was okay. She sent a picture of what she would like to put on her shirt.
She text us to come and pick her up. You could tell she was happy (the happy that I miss seeing on her face). She was giddy, told us what they did. She wanted to make sure we thought her shirt was okay. Bubba explained to all of us why she used black ink vs. a different color ink. We were full of questions and she answered them the best she could. It was cool to see expression. She didn't meet a ton of people, it seemed a lot of them were younger. She did meet one boy that will be going to here H.S. this fall and is her age. He even told her that he thought she was cute. (I should be mad that he said that after the first time, but I couldn't agree more), I think it made her day. We asked if she want to go next week. She somewhat hesitated but I think we are going to encourage her to go again. She just doesn't like the "topic" It's about Joan of Arc. We told her she should go because she was an important women in history. We shall see. :)
So yes, the temper tantrum should not have allowed her to go, but sometimes as a parent you have to overlook the little thing when you know it will benefit your child in the end. I am glad that she had fun and hoping that she will continue want to go. Maybe if she keeps going, they will she that she is a regular and friendships will develop. I know once schools starts, she will be fine but that's not until the end of August.
Here is to her story continuing on her journey.......
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